Thanks MickeyCheeky. That's good advise not to isolate. I was out at my Emotions Anonymous meeting yesterday and am meeting another friend for lunch today who I have seen less often. I reached out to a number of people where I live when I found out my Dad is dying of pancreatic cancer, so I am now texting with 4 people I hadn't been in regular contact with and they are all supportive.

I am dealing with the fact that I had a fake friendship, not with someone who genuinely cares for my well being. And it went on for many years.

I am also posting here and another online community and appreciate everyone who replies. It's acutely painful experience to be dumped that way and then get such empty, hollow apologies followed by persistent attempts to change the subject and her writing to me that she didn't know what to do about 'all this' when I explained to her what hurt my feelings.