I'm afraid I must agree with what all the other wise, wonderful posters have already wisely said better than I ever could, SorryShaped Definitely go NO CONTACT at least with your second crush. I know it's painful but I'm afraid that's the only thing to do if you want to "get over" your crush on her. Try to reduce the contact with her as much as you possibly can. Try to see if you can find another gym. Just try not to engage with too much conversations with her. It will be painful but I feel like that may be the best option As for your first crush it's a little bit more complicated. I'd actually suggest you to give it a try if it wasn't for the fact that you've said that she's not interested in meeting people from online websites. You've also said that you don't want to lose her friendships. Since it's an online friendship I guess it should be easier for you to talk to her despite your crush. Am I right? In any case I'm afraid that the option remains pretty much the same if you want to get over your crush for her although I understand that it's pretty painful The alternative would be to just tell her the truth about how you feel towards here. It depends on how much you're willing to risk it. Give it a thought if you want. The only other advice I can give you is to remember that people are not always what they seem like in real life versus their online personas. Perhaps you can try to think of that when you feel attracted towards her. I'm not sure if you already know her appearance but appearances can be VERY deceptive as well. Other than that I don't have too much advice to give to you unfortunately! I hope things will get better soon for you Sending many safe, warm hugs to you, SorryShaped, and to ALL the people you love and who love you!