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Default Jun 27, 2019 at 05:37 PM
 
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Originally Posted by WishfulThinker66 View Post
Well I hear you on this. It is sort of related to a thread I just started on horrible thoughts. I share your concern about driving. Only, it just isn't my own driving I am concerned about but it is that of others.

I am told I am a very good driver. While in the military I took a number of courses like defensive driving, safe backing, winter and bad weather driving, and so on. Years later I had a commercial driver's license. But STILL everytime I put my keys in the ignition I worry I might do something wrong.

*****I however have come up with a way to get around this.... I pretend I am taking a driver's exam and road test each time I get behind the wheel. While some might think, 'whoa! wouldn't this cause more anxiety?' I actually find it rather soothing as I think out ever move beforehand. It really does help.

There is one situation though that is still a trigger for me when I drive and that is when my boyfriend is a passenger. He conducts road tests (big rigs) and training for a living. He has never criticised my driving though. Still, I get really anxious with my stomach in knots. As a result I tend to suggest he do the driving

I suggest if you feel up to it maybe trying this pretend-you-are-on-a-road-test approach as I really do find it helpful. I pretend I am talking to the tester about my intentions and what I will do before I conduct them. This also helps me not get so irritated by other drivers as it is only my own driving I am concerned about.

I am currently driving in a city that is new to me and so don't quite know my way around. This has been cause for anxiety too but I map my routes out before hand. Not just the street names, but the major sights to look for.

Great luck. You've got this. Here's a pat on the back.
I freak out over the weirdest things when driving. We are going to Canada tomorrow (no biggie, we go back and forth often) but I am freaking out that I am going to get lost. It’s not even a big city. Still. My husband is worse than me, that’s why I am driving. Then I don’t drive on bridges and I am freaking out that for whatever reason tunnel will be closed and we will be forced to drive on the bridge. Ugh embarrassing.
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