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Our background created the neural pathways we deal with in the present. Good thing is that they can be reprogrammed because the mind has neuroplasticity.
Given that FACT, I have found that the DBT section on Interpersonal Effectiveness gives some very good direction & guidance on the steps we can take to deal with difficult situations & people. However, situations don't always give us the opportunity to come out on top of a confrontation at least it gives us a very logical approach to our side.
The first thing I now do with a confrontational situation is to retreat & get over my emotional response to it. Then I sit down & put my thoughts & my side of the confrontation together. Obviously this works when the confrontation isn't on the fly but an ongoing type of confrontation.
I had one situation with a pain specialist I was seeing. Lol....even worked with my T on it but there was no discussion...their policy was being cast in concrete so I had to decide on how I was going to deal with it. (I never went back but I had enough meds to handle going off of them with my pharmacist friend to consult with) I didn't resolve the conflict but I came out much better the way it ended.
When we use a good technique for confronting conflict at least we can know we have represented out side in a logical way. Some will listen.....others won't. At that point we just just have to figure out how we want to handle it knowing the conflict is what it is.
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Leo's favorite place was in the passenger seat of my truck. We went everywhere together like this.
Leo my soulmate will live in my heart FOREVER Nov 1, 2002 - Dec 16, 2018
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