No, I don't think that behavior can be classified as normal, but it can occur during mental episodes. I experienced mania with psychosis recently. I blacked out for a lot of the time it was occurring. I was violent and aggressive and just downright awful with my husband. Normally, I have zero issues with him. We are very happily married. Somehow my brain went completely haywire and I projected all kinds of craziness onto him. I thought he was my enemy and I thought I was fighting him for my life. I have gotten back some of the memories of what I did over time. They come back in flashbacks as they are triggered. I don't control any of it and I am embarassed and sad every time a new memory surfaces. I also dissociated from my body when I was sick. It was like watching yourself in a dream. It didn't feel real. I literally had no idea what I was doing. My brain was just on fire and on autopilot.

Your wife sounds like she is at least experiencing Hypomania. It could be contributing to the experience of not remembering how she treated you. Is she on meds and does she see a therapist or a psychiatrist regularly?

My mother traumatized me when she went through a couple of manic episodes. She didn't remember half of the terrible things she did to me. It was so extreme and I didn't believe her when she said she didn't remember. I didn't cope with it very well because it felt really personal and it hurt my feelings so badly. I only now realize she really didn't mean any of it and her brain was malfunctioning. I didnt mean any of the things I said when I was sick and neither did she. I can see that now.

My husband has forgiven me for my actions, but I know it still scares him and hurts him a great deal. I think the thing that helps him the most is that he sees all of the work I am doing to stay balanced and healthy. I put myself in treatment and then started seeing a therapist regularly. I also see my psychiatrist regularly and take my meds every day. I journal and track my moods. I eat healthy and exercise. I don't drink or use any other substances. I also read a lot of books about bipolar disorder trying to learn as many ways as I could to avoid hurting my family again. It doesn't sound like your wife is quite there yet if she's having these episodes and doesn't believe you. I trust my husband 100% and I know I was sick. If he said I did something, I did even if I cannot remember.

I would recommend reading a few books about the disorder to understand it better. It really helped me out. I liked 'Take Charge of Bipolar Disorder'. Every chapter explains the disorder and also gives friends and family ways to cope and support their loved ones.

I hope this helps a little. Everyone is different and I hope you find what works for you and your family. Blessings for peace.