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Originally Posted by TishaBuv
I sure wouldn’t come back, if I was getting criticized for drunk driving when that wasn’t even the issue that the OP asked for help for.
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I honestly don't think that was it. If I had to make a wild guess - and note here that the OP could've stopped posting for any number of reasons completely unrelated to PC - I'd say she felt overwhelmed by the sheer number of comments urging her to leave. Sure, the comments about drunk driving probably didn't help, but most of her responses past the first post were attempts to downplay her husband's behavior and highlight his good sides. I don't think she saw herself as a victim, and I don't think she felt comfortable with anyone's suggestions that she was.
Again, only a shot in the dark. OP, if you're still reading and want to jump back in, just let us know what you need.
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Originally Posted by resurgam
poster included the info in her original post...poor judgements were made by both parties. you can't just blame the boyfriend for poor actions. alcohol played into the bad calls. they drove drunk and that put others at risk..innocents.
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All true, sure. But it isn't like anyone can change that now. The best we can do is encourage people not to commit the same mistakes over again, but we have to convince them, and that isn't going to work if we overwhelm them.
It's a delicate process. A bit like surgery, it requires the proper tools. If you go in with a sledge hammer, you're going to kill the patient.