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Originally Posted by eskielover
Given that FACT, I have found that the DBT section on Interpersonal Effectiveness gives some very good direction & guidance on the steps we can take to deal with difficult situations & people. However, situations don't always give us the opportunity to come out on top of a confrontation at least it gives us a very logical approach to our side.
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DBT, interesting. I'll look into it. (sidenote: Is it bad that my first thought was of Tyler Durden's homework for the members of Fight Club, that they had to get into a fight and lose?
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I don't think I need to come out on top. In fact, I think I need to get more comfortable with the possibility of losing. I sometimes get so hung up on the idea that I might do or say something wrong, that I don't do anything. And again, this doesn't happen often, but I don't know what triggers it, and that's what's so aggravating. I know I'm capable of handling these situations, but I'm paralyzed by some irrational psychological hangup I got in childhood. It's stupid, and it makes me feel stupid for being affected by it.
Now I'm just ranting again. I'll look into DBT. Thanks for the suggestion. I also had an idea about acting classes, because it requires you to act out a scenario in a relatively safe environment. I mean ... it's better than bar fights, anyway.