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Originally Posted by TishaBuv
“How dare you continue to put your job first!”  new toxic conversation  |
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Originally Posted by TishaBuv
No, I was not in a mood to be reasoned with when I said it.  He could exit, but he won’t. He doesn’t care what I need from him, what I have expressed time and again, what puts me into such a funk. Thank God the anxiety pills have stopped the crying and tail spin depression. I only get into an angry funk for a short while then move on with my day. This is all from the exact same, dysfunctional dynamic we have always had with his refusal to initiate sex. He now admits it has always been because he is thinking about his job. Now he has resigned from the job. He has a few days left. He said, yet again, he neglected me because he was thinking about the job...hence I used the toxic word ‘dare’. It’s too silly to keep being upset about over and over. It’s ridiculous and it puts me into severe depression.  . I’m just so stuck and resigned from life. |
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Originally Posted by TishaBuv
I didn’t mean anything bad toward you.
I know I have issues and that’s why I’m in it and don’t end it.
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I miss the mark all of the time about stuff. I assumed your mom said that to you. Why? Though you never work, you have said you can and, well, your husband's job is ending... I rarely take offense about much--perhaps because I I misunderstand so much that I take it all in stride--plus, you are very sweet. I am always surprised when people get on your case about things. You sit here beating yourself up all of the time but never do it to people as PC from my POV.
That was total BS that you could never be happy with anyone---don't believe it. You do get along with loads of people on PC and others in your life. Won't comment about your mom or H for now. Sorry it has just been too much to bear lately. Remember, there is a lot of things going on. Lots of stress and changes--they are likely part of the problem--relationships are complex and two sided---boundaries, time outs, etc.
