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Originally Posted by golden_eve
@ DazedandConfused254... oh my god... your post, your kindness, and your incredibly supportive words and story just brought me to tears...
I am SO deeply grateful for your post right now, AND for you!!! 
THANK YOU. This means the world to me, what you just said. 
And yes, to add to what you said: victim blaming and victim shaming is a part of our culture in so many ways!!!! It is really so disheartening and upsetting to witness & hear about.....
Victims need validation of their abuse and experience as a victim. Victims already experience feelings of shame and self-blame.
I could go on and on about the topic.
I got really upset when someone tried to claim things that were not even accurate about my abusive relationship, not even a little bit, and when they turned it around onto ME, making it MY fault somehow... making me feel even worse than I already do! It was most upsetting. |
Awh this makes my heart so very happy!! I am very encouraged that I could be able to give you what you needed here! Sometimes I don't ever know if my help is truly appreciated but since you have helped me big time in the past I have no choice but to return the favor and continue paying it forward! I am grateful for you also and more than happy that I can make a difference in hopefully shedding light in this situation!
This is another perfect opportunity to spell out your boundaries. Even a simple "NO" would be sufficient to counteract the lies you face, no matter if you are being told "It's all your fault" in real time or if your inner self-critic is just being rude. You have every right to protect your space and guard your heart! Life is too short to allow anything but positivity and validation come take hold! And you deserve it!
Let me know if I can do anything else!