I am sorry he makes you feel like that. Honestly, there have been times I haven't made my husband feel loved enough (after the children were born)--he would get mean to me when he felt like I didn't truly care about him. Many times I was just insensitive then would be upset at his reaction. I wish I had realized how to appreciate him the way he needed to be a long time ago. A little love makes such a difference. I wish I could make your husband realize how much better life is when we show our spouses how much we appreciate them. Both you and my husband have so much to offer. Your husband and I are very lucky to have people like you and my H in our lives. He is screwing up.