Hello McWowy: Thank you for sharing your concern.
I'm sorry I'm not really able to be of help with it. However believe this is your first thread here on PC. So I thought I would at least welcome you to Psych Central.
Hopefully there will yet be other members who will have insights they can share. One additional forum, here on PC, that may be of interest to you would be the Healthy Parenting forum. Here's a link:
https://psychcentralforums.com/healthy-parenting/
There is a blog, here on PC, titled "Knotted: The Mother-Daughter Relationship" that may be of interest to you. Here's a link:
Knotted: The Mother-Daughter Relationship
I hope you find PC to be of benefit.