rhap - i understand that also. its the same as donating sperm. there might be a little you running around and there is no chance to see it or meet it. but at the same time, these people who are willing to do anything for a child would be happy. and i suspect that anyone who is willing to go that far to birth a child is going to be more than grateful and loving towards it. there are always exceptions but i dont think someone would spend thousands of dollars and hours preparing for something theyre not going to take care of.

for me its basically just the health risks part of it. as some of you already know, ive had several ruptured ovarian cysts and uterin polyps that mean i might not even be able to have kids. so going and having a procedure that could further my inability to have children isn't something i necessarily want. just with the job market so horrible and the economy so horrible its really hard to resist.