i was pretty close to almost walking out 30 mins early one session. T was greatly misattuned, being defensive and behaving like a jerk. it happened at a time when there was a lot of pressure and stresss going on at my place of work. i had requested a week off from therapy (twice weekly sessions) so i could have a break from the added stress that therapy often stirred up for me and concentrate on my work. it was the session upon returning to therapy after my short break and T became quite pushy, which definitely was not helpful at that time. we had been having quite a few ruptures at that time, so i can get that T was probably feeling frustrated, but he was greatly misunderstanding the reason for my break from therapy and took it as me either avoiding therapy and/or the relationship with him. i sensed his defensiveness was more about him taking my break personally, and making his issues mine. i kept trying to explain how the break was due to my work situation and that i was looking out for my well-being because i knew I wasn't in state that i could handle both the work stress and therapy at that time. he would not believe me, and when he kept pushing, i told him this wasn't helpful and that i would be leaving. then we got into a tift about how much i should pay him for the session...i said I would pay in full and he said only half was necessary. in the whole scheme of things, it was quite silly and i was quite taken aback by my Ts childish behaviour. in the end, he told me he didn't want me leaving and i stayed, but there was a lot of silence afterwards.