TishaBuv: That sounds like self-brainwashing; an inherently unhealthy way of handling things. If one has to damage their own brain in order to control oneself, that speaks of much deeper flaws.

As for the theory that one's emotions and one's actions are separable - no human being I've interacted with has ever chosen to bring their actions under control. The only control they display is directing their violence towards me. Outside of that, they have confessed that they enjoy being "out of control". How do I deal with those people, especially considering I will be inevitably blamed for their behavior?