at times forgiveness does not have to be offered. I do not forgive the people that abused me. they were adults..supposedly responsible ones who should have known better...why should I forgive their horrible actions? they did damage to me.

I do not linger on their actions, nor on the damage they caused. I have healed and moved ahead with my life but I do not forgive them. I hold them responsible for what they did. they mean nothing to me. there was never a sense of caring from them at all. even as a child I had moved on and separated from them. I was different and more accountable even as a child, then they could ever be.

so yes, forgiveness is not always required nor desired in an abusive requirement.