Thank you! I am also concerned about this, especially after "losing" a few days last week. I know I had done okay on/during those days; yet they are a blur to me. Definitely a sign that it was getting to be too much last week.

I was reading up a bit and realized that MANY women are "at the mercy of" their "ex," due to the usual disparity in income. I could be in deep financial trouble if I say what I truly feel. He can withhold anything he wants to withhold. I'd have to file suit if he'd decided to ignore the court order, etc. It is a terrible situation for most women to be in.

As Fharraige has mentioned there is a lot of emotional abuse involved, as well. Each time I'd made an additional discovery and had mentioned it to him, his responses were very abusive. All of the lying, the ongoing deception is also emotionally abusive, along with the "gaslighting," which he does every chance he gets. He has turned into a nightmare ever since I had discovered some of what he was/is up to. Prior to that, he was quite polite.

Thanks for caring!