Divine1966:

Who defines "necessary"? The people who have harmed me have never experienced any punishment or downside to their behavior; clearly it is not "necessary" for them to control their actions - not according to society or anyone else but me.

What I described as unhealthy was the specific avenue of control TishaBuv described - which now she has since modified, so the description may no longer hold. I never meant to suggest that I meant controlling one's behavior as a whole.

May I ask what part of my writing made you think I meant any behavioral control? I try to be very exact in my speech, as people seem to constantly look for way to intentionally "misinterpret" my speech to support their own agendas, but I can't tell where I was imprecise here.