i can see what you are saying... but i think i agree with rhapsody ...while many of my abusers said they "loved" me what they did was anything but... i am sure some thought they were... but the reality was they used their power to humiliate and degrade and control... at the end of my marriage... it was driven purely by anger ...violence and hatred ... he had no need or desire to express love... it was quite the opposite... when i looked into his eyes all that i saw was pure evil.
lyn