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Originally Posted by tecomsin
About what forgiveness is and what it is not, Skeezyks posted a number of articles on psychcentral in a different tread. My father died last night. I am glad I was able to re-establish contact with him and tell him that I loved him and say goodbye. He was accepting of his death and wanted it to be quick. He went out with 'no grudges' against anyone but didn't ask for forgiveness.
I am slowly digesting this psychcentral blog post on forgiveness: Forgiveness: Why You Should Consider It and How to Forgive |
From the blog: "Forgiveness is about you, not them."
Absolutely. It's about you letting go of anger and resentment for your own well-being. When you hold onto anger, that person, the object of your anger, still has control over you and your peace of mind. Anger can be useful in that it motivates us to act against an oppressor. But holding onto anger after the fact hurts us more than it does them.
I'm glad you were able to talk with him before he died.