I'm afraid I get shorter-&-shorter on advice the older I get. My mind just seems to draw a blank. So I don't think I have much to offer you here. I do know something about letting one's mind fade into nothingness. I think that's where mine is headed. Fortunately (or unfortunately depending on how you look at it) if I were to make it to 80 I'd only have 9 years solitude & pain left. I'm hoping not to make it that long...