@willaneil You bring up a good point about becoming toxic to deal with the toxic person. I went through great pain in the past trying to get nasty people to treat me better. Now I just accept it and stay away from them.

I rack my brain, obsessing over why they are not treating me right. That’s the hardest part for me, the ruminating over why it is a bad relationship. The bottom line is, for whatever reason, they don’t really like me that much or respect me.

It’s been extremely hard to accept this because some of this toxic behavior came from close family members who have also acted very lovingly. It’s very confusing and I still haven’t figured it out tbh.

I suppose it’s possible to be loving sometimes and very unloving other times?