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Originally Posted by tecomsin
It's a common coping mechanism to deal with problems to deny that they exist. Denial is much broader than the context of abuse but its harms get magnified in that context as the longer the abuse goes on the more damage and trauma can occur. Then the problems get multiplied.
It can be very painful to admit that one is being abused, just in and of itself, irrespective of the consequences in life.
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I didn't deny that a problem existed, and I handled it with relative ease. It just didn't fit the narrative of abuser/victim, and thus it's hard for me to understand it that way.
That isn't to say denial isn't a factor for a lot of people. Yes, I'm sure many victims of abuse would rather deny the gravity of the situation, especially when escape seems nearly impossible or when there are other lives at stake.