When your T brings up difficult things do they make eye contact with you? Do you want them to? Do you make eye contact with them?

My T always has a reason to look away, “be distracted” when he brings up things he thinks may be difficult. Last session he waited until he was setting papers on his desk with his back to me to ask if any of my mother’s boyfriends (AKA the people who abused me) ever came to the house we talked about in session. I said I didn’t understand the question so he repeated it a little more directly and turned sideways but still averted his eyes. I waited until he looked at me before answering.

So I’m curious if eye contact makes other uncomfortable in those kinds of interactions.