A born is, born able to feel.
A baby is born with needs.
A, baby can't think or verbalise about any of this.
A good enough mother meets your pre verbal needs.
If the go unmet then theres certain vbehaviours, that are clues to what went wrong.
We don't know as adults, why we think or feel or react the way we do to certain things in life.
Until these preverbsl wounds are addressed, had words out to them, we continue to feel in the dark.