if you don't tell someone they are doing something that irritates you then they will keep doing it.

how will they know otherwise?

how do you expect them to stop the behavior that is bothering YOU if you don't let them know it bothers YOU?

seems like the onus is really on YOU. can't fault them for actions until YOU let them know something is wrong. so basically it is a "poop or get off the pot" kind of scenario...yea their actions may upset you but if they don't know what they are doing upsets you, well then they get a free ride.

let them know your feelings. if they get mad, well so be it. people get upset about being told to change their behavior. do it nicely. they don't have to change and may not. in that case you have to decide..are they worth it as friends who annoy you or do you walk away.

make a decision about it & act...either way. or you are doomed to just be unhappy & complain.