I appreciate the support @Crazy Hitch and @MickeyCheeky.

I agree in prioritizing dealing with these issues. The dress thing is a nonissue, it was just adding stress onto an already overwhelming day.

The housekeeper thing is not so simple as that. They are supposed to provide this service when I'm away from home normally. The whole point is that I come home and the chores are done and groceries put away. This young man had mo domestic skills and needed complete supervision to simply put groceries in the appropriate place. I do not have capacity to oversee him and that they are causing stress versus convenience is a huge issue when I have limited capacity for anything due to my health condition right now. Please do not invalidate me by suggesting that asking them to provide a minimum standard of quality or even just the actual service paid for (I didnt even tell the whole story of what happened here) is unreasonable or that they deserve slack. They do not. So, no, I dont know what you mean when suggest that a housekeeper would need to be supervised on basic housekeeping chores. The whole point is that I don't have to deal with those things so I can deal with my health, and instead they make things more difficult or worse. But I will deal with that in steps. They are now in breach of contract.

What I really need is some support and validation from people who understand. I dont need to be told what to worry about or not or to cut slack to people I'm paying hundreds to to do a job (and also working my *** off to pay these bills).

My specific request was for people who have been here and understand to share their stories so I didnt have to feel so alone, but i did not ask for advice. I do not need nor wish to hear what anyone thinks I should or should not do. That's not what I need right now. Thanks.