Same here as feeling we get victimized by the system.

I have to say, while I have had some problems with my T it was not a big power play on me or anything suggestive physically or gaslighting, but simply misunderstandings of boundaries and my not talking to her about what my feelings and thoughts were, but just steaming with the upset and playing this stuff over in my head without any direct communication. Finally the communication happened and it is worked out and I have learned a lot from this for sure.