Yeah, it's really frigging awkward. He is really angry and does not want to let her in the room because he doesn't want to reward her bad behavior. I am worried that will trigger a lot worse stress and bad feeling. How did you handle it when it happened to you (if you feel like sharing, maybe it's better not to think about it!) I can see my mother doing the same exact thing (and she did a smaller version of it yesterday).

She does have boundary issues and of her three children, my husband is the only one who visits. One child is completely estranged and she has trouble leaving that child alone. This is the biggest boundary violation I am aware of. The more I think about it, the angrier I get. We told her we planned to visit in four weeks. How on earth can someone think it is a good idea to LIE about where they are and casually ask about visiting hours so they can do a pop in? He didn't tell her which hospital...