you replying to her messages would not be clingy at all. Since you're not initiating conversation and barraging the other person with messages daily even if they're not replying. Which is what would be considered daily. Why does her messaging annoy you?

And overall, your behaviour isn't clingy i'd say. Sounds like you simply want to spend time with just you and your friend since you don't have that often.


Anyways, you could try talking to her again and address the issue of her bringing along her boyfriend even when you made it clear not to, which she apparently agreed to. Obviously you have nothing against the bf himself, But simply want time with her alone. I imagine the dynamic is different, and im guessing thats what you want? Perhaps you can mention those things.

You could also mention how you feel about the current direction of the relationship. Im guessing you see each other less, talk less? And when you do spend time, it's shortened compared to how it was before?

On the other side of the coin.. the fact she still brought her bf despite an agreement to have time to yourselves, and that more than once you've gotten the impression she makes excuses to not hang out, or shorten your time together to be with her bf. Well, there might not be much you can do since she seems set on spending so much time with her boyfriend. Though it might not hurt to talk to her about how you feel, you know better than us how she would react.