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Originally Posted by sarahsweets
I know how you feel. I'd like to think I am past this but then it happened with my neighbor, who used to invite me out with her friends and family. We were really close and she is my hair stylist. I know in years past I sort of ghost people in the winter when the BPII flares up and winter sucks but she always said she understood. I took it personally and last time she did my hair (recently, gotta keep up with the purple!) I sort of asked-without-asking how things were and was sort of on a fishing expedition to figure out if it was me. Well it wasn't. She has had some family strife that I was unaware about and has sort of pulled back from a lot of friends. Now, this is different than your situation for sure because you say these women are more like group friends or aquaintances. *(sp). Would you be comfortable calling one of them and saying something like "Lets all get together for drinks at xyz and catch up" Or " I saw that you all got together for xyz, how was it?" You may not be comfortable going that far but maybe they didn't even give it another thought? Or assumed you were in newlywed bliss? The downside is maybe they are mean, cliquey girls and in that case you have to decide if its worth it for you. Do not feel bad going back to the teen years in your head. We think we are mature and then something petty and teenager-ish happens so its ok that we feel it that way.
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Thanks Sarah!
Yeah, I may just casually say to one of the women, hey next time you ladies all get together, please count me in. I may not bring up the fact that I saw them on Facebook, but then again, she may wonder what I'm talking about so I may have to reference it.
These women certainly aren't petty or mean. One of them is new to the scene, and it's possible that she's the one who organized it, though I really have no idea.