I understand your frustration, rukspc. No, I don't think it is unfair of you to ask something like that. Perhaps you can try to explain your friend your situation and WHY are you unable to move to a closer place for your meeting if you haven't already. Hopefully she'll understand if you explain to her. If she doesn't then acknowledge that you've done EVERYTHING you could but that she needs to make a little effort as well. Try to talk things with her and see how it goes from there if you want to. Sending many safe, warm hugs to you, rukspc, and to your family!