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Originally Posted by ennie
The reason you get the adolescent feelings is because people are in fact acting like adolescents, forming cliques. I can feel the "cliquey aura" sometimes, when I walk into a social circle.
That's why people try desperately to fit in and maintain their status. But I'd rather stay true to myself, and do what is comfortable for me. And that's mostly possible in real but scattered friendships. "Groups" tend to get cliquey for whatever reason.
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And thank you so much ennie for this wonderful post also. This is exactly the problem I have had trying to give into advice by some of my closer family such as "just look for a new group" (when I am still recovering from previous social wounds). In my experience it has just been fruitless to join new groups because of the intrisic fear of breaking traditions or social norms by introducing newbies. If large social groups aren't a specialty like they have seemed to be in my own experience, then it's no sweat. You do you!