The ex says that his therapist told him I'd said something that I didn't actually say when I met with the t alone. Which means that either the t forgot (giving him the benefit of the doubt) he'd told me that he wouldn't tell the ex what I said in that meeting. OR we're playing round umpteen of "The therapist said..."

Meh. Whatever. But I sure didn't miss that.

I realized that my real work with you didn't begin until I wasn't constantly hearing about what you really said, what you really meant, what you really thought.