Hi KK and thanks so much, it’s comforting to hear I’m not alone with this.

Yeah, I thought adding in the T2 would help me deal with the fallout from T1 and that I would build the skills and resources to be able to be there (T1) and be able to do the really important relational-type work we’re doing.

But it’s just not worked out that way, it gets harder, not easier. And like you said, it just adds complication to an already stressful and difficult time.

I like the idea of taking a break from T1 and seeing how I am on the other side. I also feel like it’s the right time: until now I would have blamed myself and hated myself for leaving and been really down on myself for not being able to hack it. Or, I would have got caught in some angry blame game. I AM angry with him, but I also recognise it’s my own limitations, too.

I always just worry I’ll lose the option of going back. I know this work hasn’t been easy for him, either, and I would imagine me leaving would be something of a relief for him.