One can assert the idea that people are "in charge of how they act and react", but how can one legally enforce that? Unless there is a legal and socially acceptable route to punish those people who won't control themselves, claiming that people are "in charge of how they act and react" is the same as yelling into the clouds. Everyone else's strategy quickly becomes forcing me to "control" myself the way they define "control" without ever controlling themselves, all in order to gain an advantage over me.