She's not here! We got happier and happier yesterday as the day went by and no one came in. My husband talked to her last night. He thinks she may still have some secret plan, but she was with his father who cannot travel so she's not here. She also finally asked about how he was doing instead of arguing about visiting.

Innerzone, that was the EXACT ploy his mother used! 'I already bought the ticket.' 'It's not my money, I don't care if you want to burn yours.' She has been so insistent about visiting, so focused on wearing down his resistance, that he is backed into a corner where he feels like if he lets her visit now, he's giving in and encouraging more bad behavior. If he is feeling well, we will stop at their house in a few weeks. Visiting them is easier because we can leave when we want. If she visits us here, we are literally trapped. He can't get away!

Last year, just after my father died, they wanted my husband to visit. I had a close relative dying not too far from their house, so we planned to visit both relatives on one trip - but they told me not to come. They only wanted to see him. It was much more inconvenient, having to make two solo, separate long distance drives, but we did it. I didn't argue with them or say anything against him going. The part of me that was happy I didn't have to go was probably overwhelming the part of me that was insulted by being disinvited, lol.