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Originally Posted by sarahsweets
It depends on whether I think that if they changed the behavior things would be good again and how egregious the behavior it is. With friends if I ever felt like a back-up friend and someone kept bailing on me I might not say anything and move on. If they circle back and ask me whats up I may tell them but I see no need to tell someone something they should know already isnt ok. People know when they are doing the wrong thing and being a crap friend. I shouldnt have to point it out to them. I had one friend tell me that it hurt her feelings when we would be texting back and forth for awhile and then I drop off for a week. I realized that it was my depression and that I wasn't being fair. So I make it a point of letting her know if I am having an episode even if its " I am feeling bad, its not you, talk to you soon". This way she knew it wasn't her and that I wasn't busy living it up with other people. But if its a matter of getting ditched by friends, they are not friends. I wouldn't worry about if I seemed clingy. To me, clingy is latching on to someone in an unhealthy manner- I do not see common courtesy as unhealthy.
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Yeah I totally agree. And that’s good that you were able to rectify the problem with your friend so your friend knows you’re not purposely ditching her or using her as a back up friend. Wish more people were like you where they were more accepting of change. And yes, clingy is latching on in a unhealthy manner and may even be not allowing your friend to have other friends and if they do then you get very mad at them.
Yeah I agree that a polite request for common courtesy is not clingy. I believe if someone says your clingy just because you asked them politely to stop doing something may indicate they don’t really care about you. That’s the conclusion i came to when someone called me clingy just because I politely asked her to stop treating me a certain way.