No one wants to be cheated on and when it happens it's extremely disappointing and can really affect one's ability to trust. When it happens it's important to make sure you don't fall into questioning if you were worthy of being respected and valued. Instead, it typically means the cheater lacks in ability to respect and is very susceptible to being selfish and only think about their OWN needs. Often there is something "missing" in the cheater that he/she can't seem to fill and that's why that person tends to be so self absorbed and often struggles to respect and appreciate the relationship they have. It's not about what the victim is not able to fill either, most of the time it's something the cheater continues to struggle with and therefore often never can enjoy a true caring and respectful quality relationship.

It's really not surprising this relationship forum is so busy either in that one of the things that so many struggle with that stretches back to an early age in them is developing the ability to RESPECT. Often many don't really see it in their own home and engaged in by their own parents. When I was growing up my parent's generation basically revolved around the man being the king of the home and everything revolving around HIM and HIS NEEDS and constantly pleasing HIM. That entire way of thinking has most definitely created a lot of problems that have been handed down to other generations. However, there were families where instead of the man being the king, the mother was the one that ruled and wore the pants, that too created problems that got handed down. Then there came the "throw away" marriages where if things were not going so well instead of staying committed it became socially acceptable to divorce and end a relationship feeling no guilt or shame about it. Many now are even beginning to wonder if marriage should even happen or have any value anymore. It's not surprising that people genuinely stress over what commitment actually means and feel so confused.