Hmmm, though I think you were only trying to provide another viewpoint, OpenEyes, I have to take issue with it. Looking again from a generational standpoint.... If there's one thing that generation goes on (and on) about it's how nobody has any manners anymore. And it is not now, nor has ever been good manners to show up uninvited, let alone when expressly told NOT to come. It is the height of bad manners! So, no, I don't think she gets a pass.

It's all about insisting that you know what someone wants and the actual person does not. It's narcissistic and presumptuous.