I'm not sure if that's "normal", hvert. I know of many parents that would likely do that but that doesn't necessarely make it good or ok. Still, I agree with you that she's crossing the boundaries that her own son has put up with her. I'm sure she has no bad intentions but she needs to learn to take a No as an answer. If your husband does NOT want to see her I'm sure he can just ask the staff at the hospital to keep her outside. I believe he's allowed to do that. It is his own health we're talking about after all. Hopefully she'll understand this. Either way, from what you wrote it seems like she isn't actually there if I've understood correctly. That's good! It means that she listened. I hoope your husband will get well soon! Please take care of yourself and of him! Sending many safe, warm hugs to BOTH you and your husband, hvert!