I just had surgery 3 weeks ago, my sister came to help me, but my parents decided to put themselves of standby, taking the week of work just in case. They were very upset when I told them not to come. I really didnt need the help. They would have just sat in my hot house, chasing around my dog and fighting with my kids dad. It would have been chaos. They weren't really accepting no as an answer and my sister had to tell them I would be fine. They wound up not coming but just came for a quick one day visit. I was fine with that.