OE and unaluna, you nailed it with 'would be considered.' I realized that some of my friends who said that they would be by their child's side in a minute were probably the kind of mothers their kids want to see. Supportive, loving, and helpful. If your mother has never been that interested in you and suddenly wants to be by your side when tragedy strikes, it's kind of annoying. No one wants you in a supporting role if you haven't been going to the rehearsals.