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Originally Posted by randomer123
So I'll complain, and I assume I'm hoping this person will "help" me or at least point me in the right direction to try to get one. But what really happens is that they ignore me or just go "oh well". And I can see why. I'm being totally annoying. I know this because I see it in other people, and if someone was whinging like that to me, I wouldn't be sure what they were wanting anyway.
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You do not have a victim mentality. People with victim mentality do not have consideration for how their behavior may make others feel. You have the empathy to place yourself in other people's shoes, and that is a great quality.
I think that it is very important to follow up your complaint with a request or a question.
This is because if you complain without making the purpose of your complaint known, people
will really mistake you for having a victim mentality.
This is because people with victim mentality are more complaint-oriented than solution-oriented: They complain without seeking solutions, so that they can remain a victim. So I think it is vital not to leave off a wrong impression.