It's happened three different times with three different women, whereby it's "all them" and not him, he says.

They each have flirted with him, or what I call flirting, he does engage with them, yet he claims it's not flirting and that he's not flirting with them.

I don't know what to believe. My gut (or is it fear?) tells me he is enjoying the attention they give and that he's not respecting my desire for him to show stronger boundaries.

In my mind, I sense that these women ARE flirting with him. They're coming up to him to chat and laugh, and never to me.

We had an argument about it this morning, and now we're not talking.

Immaturely I told him, fine, if you cannot respect my desires for you to not engage with these women, then I will hug and say hello to that man who came onto me that one time. See how you feel. That's what I said.

I know it's immature, but honestly, I am tired of this.

I want him to ignore & dismiss the women who show him attention, just as I ignore all men who show me attention. Is that fair?

He claims it's rude to ignore anyone because they are part of our friends group. But I don't think it's respectful towards ME.

We're at an impasse right now on this. He says I cannot control what he does or whom he talks to. So my response is to say, well, I'll do the same as you, and let's see how YOU feel.

Now I'm right back to thinking this marriage cannot work.