I understand what you mean, La Gitana! It seems like you have a rather difficult relationship with your mother. Some of her comments may passo off as judgements towards you and she doesn't seem to respect your boundaries too much. Is it possible for you to go to a therapist? I feel like that may help you a lot. Just some thoughts for you. Please hang in there. Try to stand up to her and to say "No" when you don't want to do something. You have every right tho say that as you're an adult now. Sending peace and love and many warm and wonderful hugs to you, La Gitana!