Hi Genken23. Welcome to Psych Central. I am sorry you feel confused about what your parents feel makes you disrespectful or rude. I am a bit surprised they did not tell you what you said that was inappropriate and why it was inappropriate so you could learn not to say that.

Assuming they did not give reasons, I think it might be worth taking a look at these threads and ask yourself if in some instances this may explain their behavior.

5 Manipulation Tactics Narcissistic Parents Use To Control Their Adult Children

14 Thought-Control Tactics Narcissists Use to Confuse and Dominate You | Narcissism Decoded

How to Set Adult Boundaries with Narcissistic Parents | The Exhausted Woman