Oddly, the only OK termination I had was after a huge rupture with a T I had seen for three years and HATED. We had always gone to the same church and over time developed a dual relationship, still didn’t like her. There was a misunderstanding and she blew up on me (after all the crap I gave her I had it coming, I just wish it had been over something more legitimate). We met the following session and she was eager to heal the rupture. She told me we needed to stop having a dual relationship and wanted to just be my T. Much to my surprise and hers I declined saying I had someone else I wanted to try and work with (which I did and that was a disaster!) could we keep the church connection. I couldn’t believe I was saying it, I hated her! Then I thought maybe I was using it as an excuse to end therapy and there was no pressure to interact with her at church. So we agreed to terminate and I hoped to never have to talk to her again... we ended up doing a lot together at the church and being OK. I would have been OK if we hadn’t still seen eachother at church too though.

The only other one that was the least bit OK was the T just before current T... we started meeting less and less, then she had a major medical issue and I couldn’t come to terms with it so I just said I would reschedule with her when I felt the need and never went back.