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Originally Posted by theoretical
Yeah, this is the sort of moping I'm more familiar with.
Which posts are you referring to?
I'm a psychopath because I have no qualms about violating other people's boundaries. Also, I don't get emotionally affected by other people's moping, so her venting on my couch is far more detrimental to her than it is to me. If I were to tell her "no," it would be for her benefit, not mine. Until I get bored of her moping, and then I'll put a stop to it. Or start billing her.  |
It’s nothing to do with being emotionally effected. I personally have low tolerance for people complaining too often (occasional is ok). Certainly not weekly but not because of emotional effect. I have other stuff to do, which I find more enjoyable and valuable.
Moping on my coach would take time away from me doing what I want to be doing at the time, which wouldn’t be listening to weekly venting.. Plus taking space on my coach. It appears that you are listening to her so that means you stop doing what you are doing unless you manage to still do what you want to do while she talks. But if you are having no issue with her venting every week then it’s all good. No issues then
As about posts re boundaries, you posted about this girl moping and venting and you not knowing how to stop it before. There were posts where you shared that you have hard time standing up for yourself. That’s why I don’t understand how you can be a psychopath yet hesitant about setting boundaries. That’s why i wonder about you doing additional evaluation to see if you are diagnosed properly. You might be low on empathy scale but you might be higher than many other people who’d have no issue with getting people off their backs
But if it doesn’t bother you or take away from your time when people violate your boundaries, then I see no issue with it. It’s all good