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Originally Posted by continuosly blue
I have since learned that monogamy is almost an impossible practice.
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I understand that your experience might lead you to feel this way and that is fine. But i cant help but share that monogamy is entirely possible and trust as well. I met my husband when I was 18 and we married when I was 20. We are coming up on 24 years of marriage so I just wanted to put it out there that it is possible.
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I have learned that you can’t trust any human being just for the fact that they’re human. We enter into relationships thinking that we own the other person. We don’t “ own “ anybody. There could be a million different reasons why he did what he did and none of them could have anything to do with you.
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This is a very good point. I do not think I own my husband nor he owns me but you are right. Just because people are people doesn't mean we own them. And this person's cheating could have nothing to do with the op so good point.
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It’s very hard to trust. The main thing I learned is make sure you can take care of yourself. Don’t ever have to depend on anyone. You come into this world alone and you go out alone. What happens in between is called life. I think someday marriage will be a thing of the past. Maybe even love too......
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It is hard to trust especially if you are a trauma survivor or have been betrayed in the past and taking care of yourself is a priority. Maybe marriage will fall by the wayside but I hope not. For those of us who want a commitment I think its worthy. I have no judgement against people who do not want to marry but I do believe love is the most important thing.
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