Hi Brett, welcome aboard. I'm fairly new here too. Glad you found your way here. Can't help you with the chat room, never been in it yet myself. Actually, can't help you with the marriage part either, my BP didn't surface until long after my divorce. I think the suggestion you already got to take your wife with you to therapy might help her to understand. Even though I'm not married, I do have a lot of problems retaining relationships of any kind. BP certainly can take a lot out of you and those that are in your life, that's for sure. I hope things get better for you soon. There's a board here for relationships, maybe you'll find some answers there. I haven't explored that board at all though. Good luck and keep posting. We'll keep listening.